tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post861428424168673388..comments2023-10-24T09:02:46.460-04:00Comments on allison wrote.: i'm a busy bumblebee.allisonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05699884615574079730noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-21000739577394132392008-08-20T12:47:00.000-04:002008-08-20T12:47:00.000-04:00Thanks so much to all of you for responding! It's ...Thanks so much to all of you for responding! It's really refreshing that you've thought about this stuff. It's not that I have a problem who choose to go traditional and wear an engagement ring and accept their husband's last name, as long as they've <I>thought</I> about it. My biggest pet peeve is the acceptance of society's norms without questioning them at all.<BR/><BR/>Lindsay, isn't it interesting that some of our biggest critics are feminists themselves? I can't believe that acquaintance asked why you bothered to get married without the jewelry to accessorize it!<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much to all of you for your comments and compliments!<BR/><BR/>x<BR/>allisonallisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05699884615574079730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-90179488732386779332008-08-20T11:25:00.000-04:002008-08-20T11:25:00.000-04:00I got married fairly young (23) and I kept my name...I got married fairly young (23) and I kept my name. My husband and I don't wear rings. This makes people very uncomfortable. A nominally feminist acquaintance once asked me why I even bothered to get married if I wasn't willing to change my name or wear a ring. Umm... I didn't realize that marriage was all about the jewelry. My husband offered to take my name, but I found that unnecessary. Something about the symbolism of name-changing has always bothered me. It's like assuming your spouse's identity. Or something.<BR/>Allison: I second April's compliment. Cheeky, bright, stylish young ladies like you are the future of feminismLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00597083344402059131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-19114538548409040162008-08-19T12:58:00.000-04:002008-08-19T12:58:00.000-04:00I think guys changing their last name is something...I think guys changing their last name is something that men should be considering more and more. After all, if they want children they most definitely don't have to be the ones carrrying the brats for nine months and stretching out their nether regions when delivering said babies. Small price to pay, gentlemen.Dennisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11853387026139691460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-62652129431811697402008-08-19T09:50:00.000-04:002008-08-19T09:50:00.000-04:00April, thanks so much!Clara, I honestly have no id...April, thanks so much!<BR/><BR/>Clara, I honestly have no idea. Taking both with a hyphen in between seems awfully cruel...allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05699884615574079730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-36781202486493681532008-08-19T09:10:00.000-04:002008-08-19T09:10:00.000-04:00i wouldn't really want to take his last name (just...i wouldn't really want to take his last name (just because i like my alliteration), but i get confused when it comes to kids. whose name do they get?ms. foxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381533698730812690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-87694293651074842912008-08-18T23:19:00.000-04:002008-08-18T23:19:00.000-04:00If I ever marry my boyfriend (and we already live ...If I ever marry my boyfriend (and we already live together like married folk), we're gonna elope. No name-changing, no engagement rings. We'll have a "marriage warming" party sometime after. Probably at a bar.<BR/><BR/>(By the way, I LOVE your blog. All I really read are fashion blogs and feminist blogs. This is perfect!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2380026113343238335.post-40240521280654141312008-08-18T21:27:00.000-04:002008-08-18T21:27:00.000-04:00I have no problem with guys changing their last na...I have no problem with guys changing their last names and I don't think it makes them "weaker" if they do so. I think it actually takes a lot of balls to do that because I'm sure they'll get crap about it from other people and it's not something that society accepts. I really want to keep my last name and wouldn't mind adding my husband's name to it, as long as it isn't too long. I know my granny would be really happy if I kept my last name and had a boy.KATLINhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07039736276176136973noreply@blogger.com